I’m 2 days away from walking away from Facebook. YIKES
I’ve been on it for at least 10 years…my FB account download was 2GB of data (they don’t really give you everything, but they do give you the pictures and most of the “writing” which, for me, was very important.
I’m going to delete my account.
What’s so crazy is that people keep saying, ‘oh no, I’ll miss you’ ‘why are you going?’ ‘don’t go’
But, I remember something that they don’t…the circle will tighten. You know when you form a circle of people holding hands – and someone has to step out to go to the bathroom or check their phone…the circle tightens. And whatever the circle was about to do – they do. Life goes on…
I believe them. It’s not that I don’t believe them, but I also know that to a great degree, everything on FB is pretend. My online energy and focus is shooting between Hawaii and London and many spots in between, sometimes daily – but that’s entertainment.
I have enjoyed reconnecting with people from an old lives. I’ve enjoyed getting to know acquaintances that have become friends (at least on FB). I have enjoyed watching families grow, career successes and new hair cuts. I have not enjoyed finding out that people that I love (and continue to love) hate other people, are dishonest and mean. That has been particularly disconcerting; as has finding out what others think of me – rude and too emotional…well, it doesn’t really bother me so much – it just pissed me off in the moment.
Anyway, there are people that I might not get to talk to anymore:
- My never-met cousins on the west coast
- My mom’s friend who has been living with pancreatic cancer for 5 years (yes, a miracle)
- My grew-up-with cousins all over the US that are like sisters and brothers to me
- The friend of a friend who makes me laugh all the time
- My father
- The old friend that I know so well – and miss so much, but our lives have stretched too thin
- My college friends that I do not know anymore, but love because of the hell we went through together
- The handful of high school friends that I have come to really like and respect
- My friends’ kids – because they are my friends’ kids!
- And D.L. Hughley – because his shit is funny and on point every day.
Of course, there are 100s more – and all of them have their own circles that will tighten on August 1 because my electronic presence does not change their days, nor does it pay their bills.
My belief is that I will put all of the energy that I currently put into FB into my real life and, in doing so, my real life will become even more real – and I will be more present to it (except, of course, when I’m writing to tell you all about the things you didn’t see me do, or hear me say or watch me think).
Ha! Joke’s on me.
Hope I don’t lose touch, but totally understand the Facebook thing. What has this world become? Love you and will try to keep up with your blog posts here.
Hello to you, Gary!!
Thank you for your note.
You have had a tough couple of years, but it feels like you’re surrounded with love – and making a good life. I look forward to staying connected here, too!
Love you back, R
I will be following you here…. less clutter . Good morning, Rhea . Keep that “hope light” on XO
So happy to find you waiting for me! The Universe is a funny place…Grateful we get to be us.